There is a lot of help online after a grandson is consulted about his decision not to share his $200,000 inheritance with his father.
A Redditor posted to bobbybukarabi shared the delicate situation on the site’s popular emita**hole forum.
He explained that his father cheated on his mother when he was 13, and that after another woman became pregnant, they went on to start their new family.
Referring to his mother, Bobby wrote: “She [was] clearly heartbroken and didn’t know what to do. We had moved to a new state with my father for work, so There were no relatives around him.
“My dad left us as a bad habit soon after it came out. He tried to maintain a relationship with me, but in the end his new family was ‘his priority,’ as he said. 13 years old Hard to understand for ages, but whatever. If he didn’t want me, I wouldn’t have needed him, so my mom and I moved on.”
He explained that he was only able to rebuild his life with the help of his grandmother, his father’s mother, who was incredulous at her son’s actions.
Bobby said: “She has always loved us and was shocked by what her son did to us. He didn’t see her for the most part. We became very close over the years. They saw each other for special occasions and holidays, while her son was nowhere to be found. He also helped my mother by giving money whenever we needed it.”
But as “the years caught on,” he developed late-stage colon cancer and was in hospice within a few months.
A few days before he died, he told Bobby to call his son and visit him.
“He only went to see him a few times since he got sick. When he came I was visiting like we used to do every few days and he acted like I was just a random person,” said Bobby accepted.
His grandmother told her son to come back the next day, and despite “calls and texts” coming in, she died four days later without being reunited.
“She left peacefully with me and my mother. That was tough. I miss her every day. She was my guardian angel for most of my life and I know she still watches over me,” he said.
After the funeral, Bobby is shocked to learn that his grandmother had essentially left all of her inheritance to him.
He explained: “Unbeknownst to anyone, he left me his house and a good amount of money. $200,000. Don’t know if he did, but there was a note from him in the will that said, ‘You deserve it. .Dear Grandma.’ that is wonderful. Also in his will he left exactly $1 to my father as his inheritance. ,
The news didn’t go down well with the father, who became “ballistic” after finding out that he “blown my phone up all the time. He demanded that I give him ‘his house and his money’.”
His father’s new family also joined in, as he wrote: “His new wife and his son sent me a lot of messages and his son wrote on social media that I was flirting with my grandmother.”
His father eventually said sorry, but to make matters worse, he told his eldest: “My father apologized and said that he was under a lot of stress because he was in debt and wanted to get the bills and help his son.” Relying on this money to send. It made me feel bad. Maybe I’ll give him something.”
After some deliberation he decided not to share the money with her, but said, “I guess it makes me an idiot because it looks like they really need it. But then f*** her.” .
The post, shared on Monday, has already garnered more than 15,000 upvotes and nearly 2,000 comments, as the online community urged Bobby to double the legacy by donating another $1.
BaconEggAndCheeseSPK explained more of Grandma’s decision, writing, “The reason she left her $1 was to make it clear to the court that she opposed the will, that she had not forgotten to include it, but her The intention was to evict him.
“She knew her son would try to take the money you left. It’s very common to leave $1 when you don’t inherit someone. Respect your grandmother’s wishes and don’t give your father a cent.” .’
Young_kosti agreed, saying, “Yeah. As soon as I read that Grandma left her $1, it was clear she knew exactly what she was doing. OP, she wanted what she got Had left him. Don’t keep in touch, you know he’s not worth the headache.”
Cms151 also noted, “So Grandma’s share included $1.00 so she couldn’t dispute the will. If it wasn’t included, she could dispute it. But leaving $1.00 is just to show That she was recruited but denied. This is the biggest FU she could give and she knew what she was doing when she did.”
RubyRedGrapefruits asked, ‘Yes, why did he send his son to college and not his daughter? Now he expects OP to pay for his son’s education? Giving anything to your father would be an insult to your grandmother.